I have always questioned a long distance relationship. That's why when my best friend started her's, I don't really give her all my support. Not because that guy is not good enough, it's just that I've this impression that long distance relationship will be quite tortuous and I really can't bare to see her going through all that.
However, lucky (if you wanna call it), or I believe it's becus of their faith/love, her boyfriend and her made thru a year and still, standing strong. I'm really proud of both of them.
But not every long distance relationship can be like theirs. Recently, one of my friend's girlfriend went oversea to study. I can see my friend really love her and they've been together for more than 3 years in Singapore. He cares for her a lot and he was worried when he knows that she was going oversea. He makes all effort including buying an iPhone so as to FaceTime with her. Not only that, other sweet lovely things he do for her I can be absoulety sure that my this friend really treasure the girlfriend a lot. After she flew there, my frien misses her like mad. In protecting the relationship with my friend, sometimes the girlfriend will have some unreasonable requests. For example, no mahjiong, no texting of any girls etc. But my friend will always meet the requirements. He will always give his best to make his girlfriend not worry.
Last night, we went to a group outing and I was sitting beside this friend during movie. Since the start of the movie he has been texting this girl he knew awhile ago. It's really not that simple if you get what I mean. After the movie, I told him I was kind of surprise to see that. Of course, I had no position to be disappointed or comment on him. However he says this to me, "I just need someone to talk to."
SERIOUSLY!?
First of all, is that girl you're texting think that she's just "someone to talk to" or she feels differently? So if your girlfriend is back, she's just no use anymore?
Secondly, why do u need a "new girl" to satisfy your need to text someone? What about your Gf? How will she feel?
Thirdly, you really tells "new girl" everything? Like HTHT? Like a new friend? Then what about your friends and bros?
.
I did not purposely write his story out to just criticize him. I like him as a friend. He is a nice guy. He is very kind, caring and helpful. He's not a bad guy. Please don't misunderstand. I just feel that people can do so many selfish things when they are lonely. And no matter how much you need someone, when the latter is not around, you'll tend to go astray. No matter is it mentally or physically. Therefore, love is not this noble to survive the test from time and distance. (but if you're having a perfect long distance r/s, I can say it's really amazing and it really gives people hope! At least it gives me hope!)
Probably I think too much recently and is too agitated about this issue. Suddenly have a lot of thoughts about it. How love can be so brittle. How love can never survive temptations and can never fail to stray.
To me, missing someone is really hard when you don't even know if the person still cares for you or not. It hurts just so much to miss someone who wants you out of his life.
Last night, Don told me that he feels that people are so fake and only care/find for you when they need you. He was absoultely right. I mean, we're all living in a selfish world.
I really have to thank Jchoo for accompanying all these days. Also, my lunchmate+baby=Eilly haha not to forget all the sweet texts from Gerrry and Sufyan. And all my beloved cousins I'm going to see later.
It's hard to tell each and everyone what happened. Also, not everyone who I talked to know what really had happened and what's the real conclusion now for us. It's not because I couldn't accept it yet, okay yah maybe I still haven't. But it's just hard. Hard to express. Especially when my mom asked and suggest outings. Just don't know how to start telling her.
Gonna get ready for my celebration ;)
K
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However, lucky (if you wanna call it), or I believe it's becus of their faith/love, her boyfriend and her made thru a year and still, standing strong. I'm really proud of both of them.
But not every long distance relationship can be like theirs. Recently, one of my friend's girlfriend went oversea to study. I can see my friend really love her and they've been together for more than 3 years in Singapore. He cares for her a lot and he was worried when he knows that she was going oversea. He makes all effort including buying an iPhone so as to FaceTime with her. Not only that, other sweet lovely things he do for her I can be absoulety sure that my this friend really treasure the girlfriend a lot. After she flew there, my frien misses her like mad. In protecting the relationship with my friend, sometimes the girlfriend will have some unreasonable requests. For example, no mahjiong, no texting of any girls etc. But my friend will always meet the requirements. He will always give his best to make his girlfriend not worry.
Last night, we went to a group outing and I was sitting beside this friend during movie. Since the start of the movie he has been texting this girl he knew awhile ago. It's really not that simple if you get what I mean. After the movie, I told him I was kind of surprise to see that. Of course, I had no position to be disappointed or comment on him. However he says this to me, "I just need someone to talk to."
SERIOUSLY!?
First of all, is that girl you're texting think that she's just "someone to talk to" or she feels differently? So if your girlfriend is back, she's just no use anymore?
Secondly, why do u need a "new girl" to satisfy your need to text someone? What about your Gf? How will she feel?
Thirdly, you really tells "new girl" everything? Like HTHT? Like a new friend? Then what about your friends and bros?
.
I did not purposely write his story out to just criticize him. I like him as a friend. He is a nice guy. He is very kind, caring and helpful. He's not a bad guy. Please don't misunderstand. I just feel that people can do so many selfish things when they are lonely. And no matter how much you need someone, when the latter is not around, you'll tend to go astray. No matter is it mentally or physically. Therefore, love is not this noble to survive the test from time and distance. (but if you're having a perfect long distance r/s, I can say it's really amazing and it really gives people hope! At least it gives me hope!)
Probably I think too much recently and is too agitated about this issue. Suddenly have a lot of thoughts about it. How love can be so brittle. How love can never survive temptations and can never fail to stray.
To me, missing someone is really hard when you don't even know if the person still cares for you or not. It hurts just so much to miss someone who wants you out of his life.
Last night, Don told me that he feels that people are so fake and only care/find for you when they need you. He was absoultely right. I mean, we're all living in a selfish world.
I really have to thank Jchoo for accompanying all these days. Also, my lunchmate+baby=Eilly haha not to forget all the sweet texts from Gerrry and Sufyan. And all my beloved cousins I'm going to see later.
It's hard to tell each and everyone what happened. Also, not everyone who I talked to know what really had happened and what's the real conclusion now for us. It's not because I couldn't accept it yet, okay yah maybe I still haven't. But it's just hard. Hard to express. Especially when my mom asked and suggest outings. Just don't know how to start telling her.
Gonna get ready for my celebration ;)
K
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